Archive for September 23, 2008

A shock to the system

It’s been a while now since the whole marriage break up and we have been managing nicely with the kids but the sh*t hit the fan on Saturday.  The ex’s gf? (mother of his other child) was nice as pie one minute and the next SCREAMING at me that if I NEEDED to put Owen on ‘calm’ (herbal remedy I think aimed at helping kids who are teething) and that if I didn’t then he wasn’t allowed to come back! excuse me? but what the F???? He is fine at home and at school and Joey’s – she didn’t even tell me what happened (even when asked) went on yelling and screaming at me that he was violent and wasn’t to be around her child. I suggested we make a time to discuss as I wasn’t going to carry on like this in front of the kids…her response was to yell out (in earshot of the kids) that I don’t give a damn about my kids and that she was going to report me to DOCS. OMG really woman – firstly DOCS would pat me on the back and say you are doing a good job if they bothered to investigate at all and I would have the full support of the school too.  Secondly if they did decide I was unfit then hey kids would end up with their Dad and isn’t that what she was wanting to avoid. Just proves she wasn’t thinking really doesn’t it!

Still my concern is leaving the kids in her care.  As such have spoken to the kids dad and formed new arrangments. He will have them on Sundays on off week instead of Saturdays so that he can do some saturday work. HE will be with the kids at all times when he has them – no more working and leaving them with her. HE will pick the kids up and drop them off in future.

The real shock (apart from my previously held belief that while a little odd nut basically sane) was the support of my ex. He told her to stop yelling. He told her that if she didn’t want her son to see Owen then she and the boy had best move out.  He apologised to me for her behaviour. He agreed with my demand that he be with them all the time.  He admits that Owen wets the bed at night and he supports the bed wetting alarm for Owen and even offered to contribute to the cost and when I said it would be hard having to get up to him but worth it he actually offered that it would be harder for me as I have him through the week and him only on weekends. He told me I was doing a great job.

Still a little stunned. Still concerned although happy to hear that she is going to be away this weekend so they will have Daddy to themselves for this weekend at least.

September 23, 2008 at 12:46 am 1 comment

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