updated the 50 things list

kids have been taught to play uno (over xmas forgot to tick it off) and the boys have been helping me cook – one boy at a time – for the past about 6 weeks so ticked that one off too. They have helped me to cook lasagne and pizzas, rissotto, pasta carbonara, chilli amongst other things.  In fact Owen in particular is getting quite good and really I help him a little he is doing most of it himself.


Still we must make an effort to get moving as I have done only 10 on the list of 50 so far and I’m getting very very close to 38 which leaves me only 12 more years for the last 40…hmm 3.3 per year…still doable if I get moving!



August 14, 2011 at 2:45 pm 1 comment

A time for change

It has been no secret that I have been struggling with depression for some time. For me one of the major issues is that I have been unable to keep up the house in a respectable state. The problem then is that I can’t have anyone over and neither can the kids and home ceases to be a place of peace and refuge when the clutter takes over.  I have been making gains with the whole depression thing. Most days I am able to make decisions like what to cook for dinner, most days I’m able to get myself out of bed without a major struggle….but still the house has made little or no progress and I am putting my foot down and deciding that it is time for a change.  I have made a decision to clean up before but sadly it always falls over after an hour or a day or two…this time I want to make sure that it doesn’t fall over.

It took a while for the house to get into it’s present state so there isn’t going to be an instant solution – it will take time.  I figured that what I really needed was a PLAN of ACTION.  So I bought a ‘to do list’ notebook (bargain $2 from woolies) and I made a list of all the things that need to be done – breaking them up into small tasks rather than ‘clean the loungeroom’ type tasks. I made a list of jobs for me and a list of jobs for the kids for each room in the house.  So over the next two weeks we are going to leave the bedrooms & playroom and we are going to focus on getting the rest of the house into a fit state.  I keep putting it off because it is too hard. But at the end of my list writing I have 1-3 jobs a day for me and the same for the kids.  So really it isn’t going to be as hard as I had thought. At the end of these two weeks the main living spaces should be tidy (not spotless perhaps but tidy) and then I’ll make a plan for the bedrooms and the playroom – whilst maintaining the living spaces!

So now I just need to stick to the plan! Putting it here is a step further in my commitment. I am making a public promise to myself to get my house in order because I think I need to!  Will try to post here more often too!

wish me luck


August 14, 2011 at 1:25 pm 1 comment

Is job satisfaction a myth?

I had a very interesting chat with my GP this morning. He commented that there appeared to be a real gender devide in the search for happiness. He said that most men go to work to earn the $ they need to do what they want to do but don’t really care about job satisfaction. He said it was women who tended to look for meaning in their work and as a result it was women who went back to study as adults (in general – obviously).  He argued for just getting a job to have the $ to do what you want….is that defeatist? Does it say that money buys happiness afterall?  I doubt that many people would continue working if they had enough money to never have to work but surely there are people out there who enjoy their job or at least get some level of emotional satisfaction from it?

June 8, 2011 at 11:55 am Leave a comment

I am still alive….

although it would appeaar that Osama bin Ladin isn’t any more…it is big news all around the world and yet I thought this quote summed up my feelings about it.

“I will mourn the loss of thousands of precious lives, but I will not rejoice in the death of one, not even an enemy. Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.” ~Martin Luther King Jr

and so now we move back to my own little world of reality.  I am doing better. I still have good and bad days but on the whole I am functioning so much better and very glad that I started on the meds almost a year ago now!

I am still studying – a bachelor of behavioural studies through Swinburne (via Open Universities Australia) – and I am really enjoying most of it.  I was quite surprised to find myself enjoying the statistics unit which I had been dreading so much!  I haven’t been scrapbooking much (well at all really) so I do want to get back into it again – must take more photos.

Kids are all well….I know this post hasn’t said much but you know what…I might just try to make them more often again!  Cross your fingers maybe I’ll be back again soon!

May 3, 2011 at 12:54 pm 1 comment

too hot….tell me it will be worth it!

I don’t ‘do’ heat! I also hate housework….so having to clear out all the crap we’ve been throwing into my old bedroom for months and months (ok years) in the heat of summer isn’t going down well.  I know it will be worth it in the long run….but still very much struggling with motivation….still am getting there….just need to get IN there a bit more, I do so desperately want the kids beds in their new room by Thursday so we can start school fresh on Friday (incidently whoever decided to send kids to school for the first time in the year on a Friday clearly wasn’t thinking)!

meanwhile I put new batteries in Corey’s leapster and he is happily playing that (though still tries to get his hands on a DS from his brothers often)….only thing is now I have a leapster, a DS and a playstation all going in one room (oh and me on the laptop) what would we do without our ‘screens’!

Time to put them down and do some work for half an hour I think….short stints in the heat!

January 31, 2011 at 1:27 pm 7 comments

Hi Honey I’m home….did you miss me?

am back again. I know I’ve neglected my blog terribly but perhaps it is time to come back to it.

A quick round of the end of year and xmas things first hey?

Mum and Dad kindly came down and watched the kids (got them to school and home) while I sat for my exams for Sociology and child development, I was worried about the child development unit but I did pass in the end and got a distinction for sociology.  At this stage I didn’t get an offer for OT as I had hoped but will stick happily with plan B and progress with a Bachelor of Behavioural studies through OUA (and Swinburne) with the aim of doing some community type work for the likes of the Smith Family.  Mum and Dad also took our tent up to Loxton as we were all landing on them for Xmas (well except Nathan who is in Perth) and she just didn’t have room for everyone in the house!

So we drove up to Loxton (having spent around $500 on the car to get a tyre repaired, brakes and shockers) and we had a fairly relaxing holiday (although boys were naughty and often in trouble)….we headed up to Adelaide for a few days and as we were leaving I thought it was odd that the ‘old girl’ (aka ’92 commodore) wouldn’t reverse up my lil brothers driveway…still it was a steep driveway and so I just let it go.  But then when we got back to Mum & Dads, Dad offered to reverse it in as I had left it on the street (my uncle was in the driveway as I arrived)…she wouldn’t go backwards….reverse gear gone!  Took it in to get looked at but it appeared that we were likely to hear that the transmission was shot….yup and a minimum of $1500 to fix it (with a second hand transmission)!  Eek…Merry Christmas girl!  On the up side, Mum and Dad thought it better to get me into a newer, safer, more reliable vechicle and as such did a little looking around before they came and told me what they were up to!  So two days later I was in my new vechicle (and I owe Mum and Dad lots of $).  But I am loving the new car, it’s a 2002 Ford Falcon wagon in a pretty metallic blue.  It has a roof lining that is actually attached to the roof, cup holders, functioning keyless entry, air con that blows me away, stereo & cruise control buttons on the steering wheel, electric windows…..and even a fully functional transmission…..so much that the old girl just didn’t have!  I am lucky to have such great parents!

Since getting home I have slowly been trying to get the house organised.  I have, in a sudden spurt of energy the other day, gotten all the toys out of the old play room and moved my things in (will leave paint til later for now).  I bought a cheap 2nd hand tallboy for Brett so they can have one each for their clothes so now just have to empty all the crap out of my old room (including my old 4 poster bed which I will finally sell) and then move in the other two tall boys and the beds. They are getting the big room so that we can pull the bunks down and have single beds which at the very least will be easier for me to make!

I’ve been getting better on the antidepressants, but still was really struggling with motivation.  I’ve just realised however that motivation has definetly been improving this week…lets hope I can hold onto it. I did get one room sorted. I also bought myself a little present – a wii fit balance board and wii fit plus game (kids got a wii for xmas) AND what’s more I have actually spent at LEAST 30 minutes on it every day….even the days when I had decided to just leave it and go to bed I changed my mind and did some.  I wouldn’t say I’m doing a hugely athletic work out but I am raising a sweat which can’t do me any harm and may just do me some good, who knows.

This year is the start of something different for me….my baby starts school in a weeks time. He is excited and really just can’t wait and a part of me is excited too I guess….it is a new adventure for me too.

oh and while on boys and exciting news…..Brett can officially ride on two wheels without a push start as of today!

and now thats it for now….


January 27, 2011 at 10:03 pm 1 comment

Best, Worst & Funniest…

A couple of years ago I mentioned at school that getting any news out of the kids about what happened at school was sometimes like pulling teeth. I was given three little laminated cards with smiley faces and a brief instruction sheet for a little dinner time game called best, worst and funniest. The instructions and the cards (which had smiley face, sad face & laughing face) have long since disappeared and yet Best, Worst & Funniest remains a regular part of our day and is usually instigated by the boys.  The basic idea is that you go around the table and say

“The best thing that happend to me today was……” then the worst and to ensure you finish on a good night then the funniest. The things the kids have told me as a result of this silly little game is amazing. And not always directly what is said but often the conversation that it leads to.

Today the best thing that happened to Owen, Brett and Corey was their dinner (spinach and riccotta filled pasta with a carbonara sauce), for me it was that Owen cooked the dinner (I helped but he did most of it).

and when it came to the worst thing (we did the weekend as Owen was at a cub sleepover last night and we were out for dinner so didn’t play)….gotta love Owen’s worst thing……”nothing….I had a perfect weekend”……gotta love that!

and the other exciting news …….*insert drumroll here* BRETT can tie his own shoelaces!!!!!! well done Brett!

and of course also looking forward to lunch tomorrow with my cousin who has just moved from Perth to Victoria (about an hour from here) and whom I haven’t seen in 15 years!

and with that I will say goodnight.


August 8, 2010 at 8:30 pm 1 comment

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